Where Anger LeadsDecember 2, 2013
I hear this quite a lot:
“There is so much anger in the sphere. This anger works against you and just makes you look like a bunch of angry bitter misogynists who hate women.”
I won’t deny there are many angry men in the sphere.
As i mentioned to Tarnished Sophia in my previous post here, a majority of the anger in the sphere comes from men who are freshly introduced into the sphere on what could arguably be the worst day of their life. The day their marriage ends, the day they get frivorced, the day they get cheated on by their soul mate, the day their kids are taken from them, the day they end up going to jail for a false rape, or not being able to keep up with outrageous sums of child support.
And they stay angry for a while, as everything they grew up believing about concepts of love, romance, chivalry, men and women comes crashing to the floor like a porcelain plate. Much of the anger is justifiable, because it’s men who wake up to the fact they’ve been lied to their whole life and are now faced with the difficult task of having to accept a new reality and discard everything they thought they knew in order to digest and accept the new truths of the sphere.
It would be as if you worked hard for 35 years and investing wisely by handing over your money to Uncle Joe who everyone said was good with moeny, only to suddenly be told by Joe that it was all a lie, he wasn’t investing, he gambled it on coin slots.. all the money was gone, and you had to start again from square one learning about the realities of investing from real investors instead of listening to people who don’t know a thing about investing.
There are two components of the sphere: getting men to first *understand* reality and get over their preconceived notions of how things should work, and then, processing the implications of it through discussion.
The former drives the latter.
I thought i knew how i was supposed to attract women. Be nice. Have a job. Be their friend and get to know everything about them before opening up your romantic intentions. You don’t want to come off as just being after sex now and add to the stereotype that all men are after is only sex. Yadda Yadda.
Once i swallowed the redpill and read every aspect of the sphere, no amount of me crying in my milk was going to change the reality of the game. Either i accepted how things actually work, or i would repeat failure. I wanted sex. I wanted a relationship. I wanted the comfort of a wonderful woman. That drove me to accept the redpill, dump all my blue pill mentality in the trash and get to the hard work of implementing the change required.
It didn’t happen overnight. There was a lot of anger along the way. A lot of anger to get out of my system. But eventually my keystrokes became less about leaving comments about all women being bitches and more about how my changes were netting positive gains in The Real World.
And this my friends, is why i get a little peeved every time i have to justify the latent anger the simmers just beneath the surface of the sphere. It’s because with the exception of a few keyboard warriors who continually enjoy leaving comments of blaming everything on women and living in their misery (because it’s easier to stay there rather than move forward and accept the new reality).. most men reach a point where they accept the new found reality and get to the hard task of slogging through their pain and anger, getting past those preconceived notions of how things should work, and start to internalize how things ACTUALLY work, and process how they themselves will work to take the best advantage possible within that framework.
From working within reality.
Now i want you to juxtapose the above, with the anger you will find on places like Jizzabel and Femifisting and any other den of culturally accepted feminism. Again, look at what Off The Cuff wrote and tell me, in all seriousness.. can you imagine any one of those vapid cunts of the kitten commando squad doing ONE DAMN THING to get over their preconceived notions of how things SHOULD work and then processing the implication?
And that anger, the anger of feminism and all it’s attempts to attain power from men for retribution, not equality. They want to make dinosaurs off the shoulders genius’s without questioning whether they should. All the power, none of the responsibility. To make things work they way they think things should work, not how reality actually works. Through social engineering, manipulation of statistics, lobbying for new draconian laws that pervert justice.. and appealing directly to man’s innate evolved mechanism to protect females in order to manipulate men into the mangina role of helping them further their agenda.. well that anger is always on the surface for all to see.
There is no introspection. All their bitterness from failed relationships.. men’s fault. All their rage and inability to separate equal opportunity from equal outcomes.. men’s fault. No science, all feelings, all the time. No digging deep, no questioning their own actions or what men desire or expect of women. Never anything to change the way women operate, always about how to convince men to change, or to have society shun him if he does not.
They don’t see reality. They see what they want to see. Gender constructs. Woman sees flower, says it’s beautiful. Looks to man. Since we are the same except for genitals he should agree right? Of course he does, but not because he thinks it’s beautiful, but because it’s the quickest path into her vagina. You’d think after years of bitching about how guys like movies where shit blows up and people get dismembered they’d stop with the gender construct bullshit. It happens naturally, no one need pull strings.
If a man took the traditional path, worked hard and saved, got the rock, went down on bended knee, listened to his father about ‘happy wife, happy life’, listened to his mother to ‘just be yourself’, listened to all the gossip columns and girlfriends who advocated more and more supplicating, and then finally listened to his marriage counselor to double down on that supplication.. you could reasonably expect him to be angry when he finds the sphere and realizes he’d been lied to.. BY EVERYBODY. You can understand he’ll be even angrier when he gets constant feedback from other successful men telling him to discard all he’s ever known, told to sack up, learn what it means to be ‘attractive’, learn that hypergamy doesn’t care, learn about female nature, attraction triggers, the science.
He learns that for him to succeed, he cannot ask the world to bend for him, he must bend for the world he wants. He realizes that he has to work if he wants results, or walk away entirely. He learns that the status quo is simply not possible anymore. It may take a while, he may bitch and moan for quite some time about the state of how we got to this point from the good old days, but eventually he will either accept it and work to be attractive to women and seek out a relationship, short or long term, on his own terms. Or he will accept that it is beyond him to try and he will go his own way. But realizing fundamental truths of the sphere, and of women in general will help him accept women for what they are, stop blaming them for their evolved nature, and how that nature works in a world where all constraints have been removed from that nature.
That is what the angry men have to deal with once they discover the sphere. I don’t begrudge them one bit for being angry. It usually leads to the Golden Path.
Let us see what happens to the equivalent for a woman, who is burned by a man, scorned by a lover, left by their man after years of marriage, cheated on, etc..
She discovers Jizzabel, Femcuntfisting or any other site dedicated to educating the modern empowered young woman. Do you think that she will find a raging internal debate amongst women as to what those problems are, what their role in it is that adds to the problem, what it is that men might actually want or desire, any thought of historical, biological, evolutionary reasons for why things play out the way they do?
There is only anger. Pure anger. And no ownership of that rage. It is simply redirected towards men. All men’s fault. All the time. AMALT. Patriarchy!
When a woman gets cheated on and she comes to the femesphere to find answers, she will get none. She will only get emotional consoling, support and validation of her butthurt. No introspection on whether her dating an alpha with options, closing off the sexual access in attempt to extort packmule utility, entitled princess mentality, past whorish behavior or ignoring, emasculating and disrespecting her man played a role. The rage bots will all assuage her feelings, wipe away any guilt and absolve her of any indiscretions that may have played a role. He’s simply an animal that should be castrated.
When a woman asks why she can’t lock down a man for commitment, she is told all manner of fairy tales about men. They are all dogs. All they want is sex. They’re commitmentphoebes. She needs to put out faster. Men are just scared of strong, intelligent women, they prefer bimbos. What she isn’t told is that it’s her slutty past, her mannish attitude, her careerism and independence are telegraphing that she doesn’t view commitment as a priority in life. She isn’t told that the alpha’s she seek have no interest in locking down, or that the invisible beta’s she ignores and repulsed by are 100% ready to answer the call.
If you were to tell any woman how to fix their girl game problems to work in ‘reality’, like men men are told how to fix their game in our sphere, suddenly they go into hyper rage.
You cannot tell women in the feminist sphere about the truth of male nature, female nature, hypergamy, or even simple advice on how to be attractive to a man. Because it assaults their hamster and they lose their shit!
Look at the recent dust up with Tuthmosis over at RoK. No matter what your personal stance on eating disorders (i happen to be firmly in this camp with Vox, an eating disorder is like saying the need to smoke is a disorder. It’s not, it’s a choice.).. his post did point out one drastic thing (along with all other fat shaming, pro femininity campaigns that come out of the sphere that raise a shit storm with the feminista cat claw brigade) .. tell women the truth about male nature and watch the shitstorm come upon you like a pyroclastic flow from an ugly and obese volcano. Big red anyone?
It points out that a majority of women are unable to do what men do. Objectively sit down, own their problems, and work to fix them within the confines of reality. Men don’t look for society to legislate away their problems.. they look to fix them on their own. Once you force the red pill down his throat, and have given him all the knowledge he accepts that either he changes to see results, or he withdraws from the game entirely and goes his own way. You don’t expect him to sit there and pout saying “Why can’t she just find me attractive!”.
Tell men that hypergamy doesn’t care.. and after a shitload of cursing.. they get it! Then they work within the confines of reality to either adapt to satiate that hypergamy.. or avoid it. But they accept it’s part of female nature, accept their former beta selves were integral parts to why they failed to satiate it, own their failings and work to overcome it eyes wide open.
Tell women that men don’t like fat women and they lose their shit. Tell them men want feminine and submissive ladies and women lose their shit. Tell them they want complimentary and not combative partners and women lose their shit. They are already teeming with anger, and pointing out empirical truths based in reality only brings the bloodlust out even deeper in these women.
Kind of makes you want to write a national column asking “Where Have All the Good Women Gone?”
There is no ownership of responsibility to the part they played.
There is no will to change or correct their own behavior.
There is no acceptance of empirical truth or reality.
It’s men’s fault. Men need to change. Men have to accept their rules. I reject your reality and substitute it with my own patriarchal conspiracy.
Implicit in all that is ‘I have the pussy therefore i make the rules’.. silently acknowledging the double standard at play. Women have a resource men want and better conform to to get it. We don’t want to change, so you better accept my sorry fat entitled bitchsnark ass if you want some. Sorry Crisco princess, it ain’t worth that much now.
Men have every right to be angry when they come into the sphere for the first time. They have a right to process that rage and anger after discovering they’ve been spoon fed bullshit all their lives and have to pick up the pieces and start from square one. It’s a difficult and painful place to start a journey from. I know.
But where the sphere’s anger differs is that over time, after enough training and knowing what the rules of the game are, thus being able to play the game on an equal footing.. that anger dissipates. We men understand that in order to be taken seriously, we have to undertake the changes required on our own shoulders, own the parts we played in our ignorance of the rules, and rebuild. There may be a lot of bitching in between, but it’s just a part of the journey.
The Sphere is angry, but from that anger is a thousand points of change. The Jezzies are angry, but zero willingness to change it enters a perpetual bitch fest of saturated fatty tears in a desperate attempt to have everyone accept mediocrity in hopes that misery loves company and you’ll have nothing to choose from because all options will be shit. The Sphere’s anger is constructive, powerful, raw and liberating. Jezzie anger is pitiful, amusing and sad. It’s a bunch of unhappy troglodytes passing time waiting to die, bewildered at how unconvinced they were with their own lies.
I guess i could have summed up this long post with 2 lines:
- Men get angry – then solve the problem
- Women get angry – and never shut the fuck up about their problems (The sole reason Jizzabel exists)
And with the exception of TheRedPillWomen on reddit and a few ladies in our sphere, this is a journey you will not find on the opposite side of the aisle. There you will only find women, bitching, moaning and complaining about things they will never be able to socially engineer out of men, universal and natural truths they will never be able to circumvent. And the anger will never stop. Because there is no will to do what men do…
They can never get women to first *understand* reality and get over their preconceived notions of how things should work.
You cannot step out onto the Golden Path if you’re unwilling to entertain the idea you might be on the wrong path to begin with.
Matt Forney wrote something today that i consider relates to what i just wrote and want everyone who passes through here that hasn’t read it, to read it and let me know your thoughts. Not that i endorse keeping women out of education, but it raises a lot of good points, including everything OTC mentioned about reality, preconceived notions and how they should work. Cheers!