Posts Tagged ‘marriage2.0’


MSN Lifestyle Page.. Go Fuck Yourself

December 17, 2012

Wow. This just came across my desk and it begs for a rant.

Enjoy the drivel of someone really fucking stupid over at MSN writing out of his/her/it’s ass.

10 reasons for men to embrace marriage

From the article i will dissect numerous points.

Many men are a bit dismissive of the concept of marriage. To some of us, marriage is an institution designed to tie us down, break us in and lead us, like obedient donkeys, into a lifetime of domestic drudgery.

Just think of the language we use. Wives are trouble and strife, and marriage is a prison sentence.

And yet, if you’re with the right person and you’re at the right time of your life, a good marriage can be the solid foundation for everything you achieve in life. Here are 10 good reasons to embrace marriage.

Right person? Right time of life? Sorry, that boat has sailed. That train has left the station.

If you are an alpha and you find that one in a million girl.. yeah, marriage is great. ELSE it just turns into pigs flinging shit. There have been numerous discussions in the sphere lately all pointing to the same thing, women saying they don’t value marriage in the early years… so there’s no reason they will value it later, unless they’re hitting the wall. I’ll keep saying it till i’m blue in the face.. you don’t value something if the only reason you’re doing it is because you ran out of options/power.

Everything else written is correct. For most beta’s and some alpha’s the ball and chain metaphor applies. Do this, do that, do as i say you obedient little donkey.. ELSE marriage over and kiss you ass(ets) goodbye!

“She’ll be there when you need her, through good times and bad.”

“…but getting married means publicly agreeing to be there, for each other, for life. There’s a psychological permanence about marriage…”

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH! Read the rest of this entry ?


Confessions of a Reformed InCel

November 17, 2012

[EDIT: with so much new traffic, i thought i’d give the Sphere some advertising. ]


[EDIT 2: For anyone new coming here from The Daily Dot, Reddit, Ask Men or anywhere else. Once you are finished reading this piece (due to the interest since the Elliot Rogers murders) and you get all your feathers ruffled about the ‘feelings’ section, please head over HERE for understanding the proper context lest you get your panties in a bunch. If you assume the language was written as intent rather than contextualizing what would be required to have women stripped of their natural biological advantage of being noticed solely for the fact they are female – then i can’t help you or you comprehension skills. peace the fuck out]


November 17, 2012. enough is enough. i warned y’all it might get depressing. here goes. don’t worry, it ends well. i think.


In honor of my 10,000th view.. i’m going to publish what i consider the hardest post i’ve ever written. But it needs to be written, for i may be an extreme, i know i’m not alone. This isn’t written for the PUA or the Alpha or the Pussy Slayer™. This is written for you, the one without hope..  to know there is hope and you can get better.

Thanks for the hits guys! Snapshot taken 07/09/12 at 2:33 pm after 3 weeks on the interwebz.

[actually no.. i’ve crossed 50k. that’s how long i’ve been holding onto this draft, terrified of letting it go. but i saw a comment today that finally let me pull the trigger.]

It is so Very hard to hit that PUBLISH button.

Writing this post is a source of *shame* for me. It’s been sitting in my drafts for about 2 weeks [edit: 5+ months actually]

But at this point in my life having endured what i have, it does not trouble me putting it out in the sphere. I am sure i am not alone in this and that this post will actually help someone out there. Some of you may relate. Women hopefully may finally understand where my anger and cynicism stems from.

So i’ve decided to unleash it. [about time?]

Firstly, before you continue, please go read THIS POST. [Edit Apr.30,2014: Due to the explosion of traffic from AskMen, I have noticed this post is no longer available, so i will instead invite you to go read THIS POST instead ] No offense to the author, my past wasn’t her fault.. but it struck the usual nerve with me. You need to read posts like this to let the feeling of inequality fill you up.

Welcome back..

When i read it or stories like it, these are the THINGS I FEEL (and yes, i know ‘feelings’ are the domain of a woman)

  • When i hear a woman tell me that she’s gone through a dry spell and not had sex in over X weeks/ months.. i feel like putting my fist through her face.
  • When i hear a woman tell me that she feels ugly or unloved or unwanted because her partner hasn’t touched her in over 6 months, i feel like laughing loudly 3 inches from her face.
  • When i hear a woman tell me that she just picked up a random guy for a night of fun because she was lonely, i feel like i’m glad i don’t own a gun.
  • When i hear a woman tell me that i shouldn’t feel bad about having gone without for so long, after all it’s only just sex, i feel like disfiguring her face with a scalpel.

Nature’s cruel joke and cosmic irony in one. I as a man, biologically driven365 days a year to ejaculate and produce sperm as often as possible, and having the drive and desire to want it every waning moment, who is villified for this natural urge and made to feel ashamed of my sexuality, control it and subdue it to conform to the feminine imperative… have to listen to women, who in their solipsism cannot fathom the ordeal of what i’m about to write about, women who biologically ovulate and desire sex rather infrequently compared to men, talk about, no celebrate their sexuality, their urges and desires.. and lament their short dry spells as if the world were coming to an end. They can never understand what a power differential there is in these urges.

Women can say they love sex just as much as men. I would call BS. Until there is a glut of male prostitutes, male escorts, male rub n tugs for female patrons, a demand for male sex workers and strippers i’ll say nay. Unless they’re all having alpha sex on the side perhaps? Or will touching themselves to 50 shades suffice? At least mommy porn is culturally acceptable. Women DO NOT need sex like men do.. otherwise the sphere would not exist.

Anyways.. back to my pitiful former life.

I have no pictures of myself from a time period stretching from high school to my late 20’s, save for some randoms others might have taken of me. I have no memories or recollections of my time in high school. I have no stories of parties, girlfriends or wild flings. It’s a time period i wiped from my mind, much like PTSD. The only way i can recall it is if i sit down and think really hard about it. I rarely do because i don’t like feeling like shit for the hell of it.

I was that beta/omega/zeta. I let myself get LJBF‘ed on multiple occasions being that ‘nice guy’ that male hating cunt Amanda Marcotte despises. I  played by the rules as handed down to me by the feminine authorities on what women would look for and appreciate in a man. I was asked to believe what they said, not what they did. ‘Just be yourself‘ (your nice beta supplicating self) was the golden code.

So here it is… my Incel Hell.

This is where you will stay for the next 12 years. Enjoy your stay.

<deep breath>

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Married? iPhone and SIRI can help.

November 14, 2012

For all my married readers. You’ve been good sports during my latest diatribes against marriage. I thought i’d bring you some levity for your day.



If you take just one piece of advice from me…

November 10, 2012

sorry for the lack of updates folks.. i’ve been uninspired as of late and really felt like a lot of my stuff as of late was ranting. I kinda want to step away from that. I’ve also been re examining a lot of stuff too, introspecting.. and just wondering what my purpose is anymore, given that i really have abandoned the white picket fence and kids. But mostly, it’s been a one two punch.

1. It’s like everything i want to say is always said more eloquently and better by other bloggers, in which case i should just hit the reblog button… and

2. i’ve fucking lost my faith in humanity.

In the last month i have counselled one of my long time friends to abandon his marriage. His wife is on mat leave for their second child and is due to return to work soon. She has no qualms about spending many hours after work at bars leaving him at home with the kids. He suspects she’s on the prowl. He has no evidence but he alluded to ‘cock breath’ coming from her i trust his instincts. She doesn’t seem to care that her actions hurt him nor does it seem like she would care if he were to flip off and head out to a bar by himself either. Their marriage is for all intents and purposes a sham. He lives in dread. Not the dread of separating or divorce, he’s had those lines covered for some time. No he’s living in dread with the beat thought of keeping his yap shut, trying to work things out and having his mind wander and race thinking about what his wife might be doing out there. It hurts him because he’s said on so many levels they work together, and she is his best friend. And i kept telling him he shouldn’t have to be falling on his sword for her and if she can’t treat him with respect he should walk.

He comes from a similar incel situation that i did so i feel his pain. It’s hard to walk away when you know you have no power, you’re not spinning plates, you have no back up, and no prospects of coming up alpha anytime soon. I’m far from ‘alpha’.. but i put in the effort to bulk up, put on a harsher face, take no shit, push back attitude. Sure im not a suave charmer (until you get 4 or 5 drinks into me) but i can spit some game. He resigned himself to beta, he wants the world we used to live in, he wants back into the matrix like Cypher. He want’s blissful ignorance and i can’t say i blame him. He’s not a pump n dump personality and i’ve fed him nothing but western women suck for the last few months. Effectively, i think i boxed him in to a hopeless situation. I dunno. This really sucked.

And then yesterday sealed the deal for me.

I went drinking with another friend.. he’s been married for years. Before i go any further let me tell you.. BOTH of these guys are hard working SOB’s. They provided, they manned up, they are not misogynists. Dude i talked about earlier is fit, rides his bike, highly educated,  makes decent coin, got a house, takes care of his kids, does reno’s to the house, and loves his wife EVEN after all her shit. Dude i’m about to talk about married his wife AFTER what i suspect was an ‘ooops the pill failed’ event… (i can still remember having a coffee with him years ago when he confided in me, and i told him to get a lawyer. he got a priest instead).  So he was having a child with a woman who already had a kid from a prior, and he had one more, so there’s a family of 3 kids now, 2 of which are his blood. He’s busted his hump to provide. Stuck it out at his job and became top dog of the entertainment complex he manages. He worked long hours, traveled massive distances when he first moved to the city of Oshawa, about 45 minutes drive from Toronto. He did this trek for years, and sometimes he did it on his peddle bike when the car was in the shop. He worked hard to provide, loved his kids, even the step daughter.

His wife was always sick, to the point where it prevented her from working. I can’t fault illness and neither can he. But he get fed up with the money fights as she made them spend more than he could make. He’s damned if he spends because then they have no money. Hes damned if he tries to do something himself, like reno’s to his home to save money because then he’s not spending enough time with the kids. And on and on and….


Hearing these things just makes my blood boil.

And it just gets better.

Turns out things have been so bad, their marriage is a sham now too. He described it as they live there together and eat there together and thats about it. Oh, they now live back here having sold their home in Oshawa. He’s been working hard to repair his childhood home for his family.

Except now i learn his wife is now pretty much done and ready to move out west to British Columbia and take the kids with her. The primary reason is because she wants to look at treatments for her illness that they don’t do here. But my friend sees it for what it is, a separation that effectively ends the marriage.

Oh and the kicker.

His stepdaughter is pregnant. She’s 15. And it comes full circle.

See, he TRIED to lay down the law, but step daughter told him that she’d never accept him as her real dad, so he did what he could but expected mom to lay down the law. Mom didn’t. Mom was her best friend, not her mom. Mom comes from a family that breeds irresponsibility like it’s going out of style. There, there is no ‘shaming’ of unwed, teenage mothers. There it’s always ‘oh shes young, she made a mistake, we need to help her out now’. There is a lot of irresponsible behavior on her side of the family that he married into… he knew this going in. But now he’s had enough of it.

He set down the law. He told her to either abort, or move out. Harsh? I don’t think so. He laid it out by saying he told his wife he didn’t want any more kids, and this teen baby would become his defacto kid. What’s a 15 year old know about raising a kid? She’s gonna dump it on mommy and daddy to take care of like an irresponsible brat. And with mommy constantly out of action due to illness, guess who’s gonna get saddled? That’s right.

So, daughter is moving out with scummy boyfriend to explore the worst decision of her life. It’s on her. It’s on mom. It’s on her bio dad. It’s not on my friend. He did everything he could, he’s had enough.

What’s the whole point of this shitstorm im writing?

It’s this..

If you take one, JUST ONE piece of advice from me ever.. it’s this.







hopefully ill be back soon.


Failure to Launch

September 19, 2012


I dedicate this post to HUS.

Census 2011: Canadian families get smaller, married couples fewer

Canadian families are getting smaller, the number of married couples is lagging

Check. Women not wanting to marry down, women holding off till 30+, rampant divorce fear. Take your pick. It’s not a good look now.

And while married couples are still the predominant family structure in Canada, their numbers only increased by 3.1 per cent since 2006, while the number of common-law couples rose by 13.9 per cent over that same period. Single-parent families rose by 8 per cent.

Check. A few more blue pillers took the plunge. I will pray for you. A huge margin prefer cohabiting or FWBing their way into ‘couple’ category in the census, how nice. Bringing up the rear are a majority of future fucked up children with no male role model. The decline continues.

Families themselves are getting smaller and not just because single-parent families are on the rise. In 1961, the average number of children per family was 2.7. That number is now just 1.9.

Check. Yeah.. that whole fertility thing kinda puts a cap on having more kids late. Oh of course it’s also much more expensive to raise the little tikes too.. but my guess is it’s harder to keep cranking them out when the internal plumbing has lost it’s sheen and been backed up no matter how many attempts of roto rootering are made. And as OKCupid and POF can attest to, those lonely single moms with children just begging to get wifed up just simply aren’t reeling them in for some curious reason.

The census also confirmed the existence of the “failure to launch” phenomenon, registering 42.3 per cent of young adults in their 20s — particularly men — still living with their parents.

Check. When you take sex off the table, giving it to only the lucky few at the top, you create disincentive for the masses from wanting to leave the nest to build their own nest with another bird, especially a used up gangly, featherless bird that can’t really fly anymore and squawks about how fabulous it is. Factor in a man-cession that killed millions of male jobs, a tendency to push females ahead of males in the new workplace, and the general fiscal responsibility men display vs. the consumerism and debt spending women display, and it’s no wonder that men are opting out to stay home with mummmy n daddy.

Such a pretty little graph. Too bad it doesn’t have a separate line for Upper Middle Class…

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It’s not up to Men to kill Feminism

September 19, 2012

In my last post where i quoted DetiCarolina posted a comment that reiterates what i’ve heard quite often and can actualy sympathise with. Feminism lied to women too. There can be no argument of that.

My response started drifting into a large amount of text so i decided to make it a post rather than leave it buried in a comment.

I have made the same point on HUS many times, only to be told unequivocally that this was not ‘her’ problem to fix, her only goal, her blogs goal, was to get UMC folks hooked up and married. Apparently in the digital domain of HUS, they are secluded on an island somewhere where the rules governing society don’t apply to them. They will just coast along and make whatever adjustments are required to get UMC college brats to hook up in the hopes of getting married, with all inequities and injustices still in play. That is why i left. I cannot condone telling people to march blindly and willingly into such a possibly self destructive situation that still operates under the law of feminism and all its inherent dangers.

Just because UMC divorce rates are a low 17% according to her stats, that makes it peachy to advocate marriage. Tell that to the possible 1,700 men out of 10,000 that will be divorce raped out of their lives. The only way you could convince me to accept an operation with a fatality rate of 17% is if my life was at stake. Given that outside UMC, the rate borders on the odds of a coin toss.

HUS still operates for marriage 2.0 and does nothing to bring or effect change. So i walk away, with my sanity intact.

But back to Carolina’s comment.

It’s often that i forget that a lot of women got suckered in with Feminist propaganda and rhetoric thus were herded away from their proper natural role as a pinnacle of civilization into the feral hypersexualized and gender bent women of today via peer pressure and the need to fit in with the grand narrative Feminism built. I recognize NAWALT as real no matter how much it plays out like a meme. I only need look at women like Carolina, Stingray, GirlWritesWhat, etc.. to know there are great women out there (they just all end up being already married lol) who are capable of introspection, understanding and pushing back against feminism. I would really ask any woman to please check out GirlWritesWhat’s Youtube channel. It will open your eyes hearing everything we men talk of coming from a woman who knows her stuff better than most men! And we must always remember that it is a mitigating factor that women were conned by Feminism, and we must accept that they acted upon a lie, because as me and Deti have been saying for some time, men have been acting upon those same lies too, and paying a heavy price for believing in them. Just as it’s not the fault of Beta guys who followed the script we were force fed in the 80’s and 90’s and followed it off a cliff, so too can we not blame women for following it off a cliff either.

Yes women are victims of it too. Propaganda does not affect just one gender. If a boy is taught and told enough times that the majority wants him to get in touch with his emotions, feminine side, not be aggressive, to ‘be nice’, respect and always listen to what a woman says (and not what she does).. no matter what visual evidence to the contrary, he’ll buy into it.

So if women are told and reinforced constantly that they are just like men, can fuck just like men, work and party it up now and get marriage kids later, live a fabulous life and have it all, no matter what visual evidence to the contrary, she’ll buy into it as well.

I feel we’ve only still hit the tip of the iceberg in terms of fallout from it’s influence in society.

Blame can’t be assigned for those who followed blindly. But at the end of the day it’s not up to men to fix the problem of Feminism’s lie machine for society.

Feminism fucked up both genders. It taught women to be masculine and feminized men. Now we have a world of beta men and masculanized women who cant stand those same feminized men. Those men are woken up violently by the redpill and come to despise the masculanized women. They fight back by learning about being men from men and use this knowledge against those same masulanized women that marginalized them while chasing the dream of feminism, fuck like a guy now, give away your most precious commodity to those least deserving of it (your youth, vitality, fertility, loyalty, sex and love by proxy), marry later at your convenience. Well the alpha men they enjoyed fucking didn’t want to marry them. The beta men either went rogue and became alpha as well or remained beta and bitter. Neither of which will be chomping at the bit to play into feminism’s fabulous ‘have it all’ endgame. Hence spinsters and cats.

The promise of enlightened hedonism for women has backfired (and the lesser men who fought alongside feminism in the hopes of jumping in on the plentiful pussy bandwagon). One only need to see the plethora of hedonism espoused on some of the greatest PUA sites of our time as they slay pussy left right and centre like hunters going after the prize elephant as they employ every facet of game including the dark arts to let these women tingle themselves out of their panties and believe charm over reason. One also only need to traverse and online dating site and see a Tsunami of 30+ year old women all barking out the same tune of wanting to settle down and have that child that their 20’s hedonistic lifestyle didn’t alot for. And society as a whole falters while this all takes place.

Society was built on the barter of sex. Of this there is no doubt. Men always did honorable things for it. They did horrendous things for it. They built cities and castles to house and protect it, Kings sent men off to die in wars for it. At the core of every man within ‘civilized’ society was his trading of utility for access to sex. The Patriarchy, whatever the fuck it means, is what built us up from grass huts into skyscrapers and collecting muddy water in buckets to tap water on demand. It was built with men’s labour in exchange for females honoring the social contract.

Feminism is poised to end that civilization, by allowing women to go feral, and let a derth of men, good decent men who simply failed to be taught how to turn on instant awesomeness, whether the douchebag variety or otherwise go wanting for years on end. Passed over time and again with no ability to string enough ‘wins’ in their column to build real confidence, they turned to their hobbies and video games that they excelled at eventually withdrawing from the thought of doing anything to help ‘civilization’ along. Why bother? There was nothing in it for them. The women voted with their feet and their vagina’s. To the winner go the spoils, to the losers, Warcraft, D&D and online porn. Go without long enough, and you train yourself to live without it, and any desire to build that family that cranks out future consumers and taxpayers as well. Call of Duty’s a’callin.

But at the heart of it all was feminism. The dark dead heart of it was playing that there were no gender differences. We all think and act the same, same strengths, same weakness’s, we are identical except guys have floppy bits around the crotch and always think about sex because we’re stupid bastards thinking with our dicks therefore inferior (oh wait, so there is a difference after all?) And in trying to fuck with nature, they fucked with the course of human evolution and civilization for the next couple hundred years to be sure.

No more grand bargain or social contract = No more chivalry. No more caring to man up, get a hard job to earn a good wage to provide for a future family and work my way into an early grave for the love of a good wife and wellbeing of my offspring. There is no one stepping up to the plate, WOMANING UP to be a dutiful wife and great mother worth the effort of that hard work. There is no need to plan for that big house, the minivan, property taxes, mortgages, loans, credit cards, etc.. required to make a family prosper. No women around me were willing to abide by the old rules to make it worth my time to try. As long as feminism continues to teach women to hunt alpha’s while building up careers and extolling those virtues as marriage/mate credentials in their 30’s as something to consider accomplishment or be proud of.. this death spiral will continue. As long as marriage 2.0 remains on the table the death spiral will continue. As long as men’s sexual urges and desires are deemed unruly and criminalized the death spiral will continue. And as long as women are told to burn away their 20’s destroying their value through casual sex and riding the carousel with a myriad of guys in the top 20% to the exclusion of the bottom 80% this death spiral is all but assured. The internet means the manospheres message will be taken in by men at an exponential level. Every day it will become harder and harder for spinsters to find a chump to pick her up after 30 armed with this knowledge. Everyday more and more men will go redpill, discover game, go their own way, become bitter, hostile and react to discovering the truth by living for themselves, hedonistic, slaying pussy or working just enough for their own needs and give the rest of civilization the finger. More men every day will pass on the knowledge of the manosphere to others. With each divorce comes a new recruit, and all those who witness it primed to look down the rabbit hole themselves.

And it is a pity that good women will get caught up in this as collateral damage.. of which millions of my beta brethren can attest to as they have also been sacrificed on the alter of a great evil social experiment gone haywire. The sad part is men can only band together and help themselves whilst sounding the clarion call of the danger, but ONLY women will be able to fix this, and by fix i mean kill feminism off. Enough women have to go against the HERD and renounce feminism’s black ideology of female supremacy and irresponsibility as it stands now. This isn’t about clawing back women’s right to vote or get them preggo n barefoot in the kitchen. It’s about recognizing men as individuals, with their own desires and dreams that are DIFFERENT due to biology.

It’s about women saying ENOUGH, we got the EQUAL rights we wanted so now STOP FUCKING AROUND WITH OUR MEN, OUR HUSBANDS, OUR BROTHERS AND OUR SONS.

Women need to rise up and say to Feminists:
– stop telling us there are no gender differences and that gender is a social construct
– stop telling us our men need to be emotional and in touch with their feelings and to talk out their problems like women
– stop telling our men that they should be ashamed of their sexual role, function, drive and need for sex
– stop telling me im just as capable as a man of putting out fires, fighting wars or building skyscrapers, most of us can’t and i don’t want to
– stop telling me, my daughter, my sisters that i can fuck like a man without any consequences
– stop telling us our brothers, sons, fathers are potential rapists we should always be in fear of and to teach them not to rape

and most importantly


But until that day, men will continue to do what they always do.. adapt to the current situation. PUA or MGTOW.

As Morpheus would say, Carolina.. Welcome to the desert of the real.


I have a dream! That one day, in my city, the city that spawned the ludicrous ‘SLUTWALK’, where it is now all but certain to be an annual event (with dwindling numbers as was reported in Vancouver) they will run into a counter protest led by women to face off against them, in such numbers that the media is forced to notice. Ideally i think no one would be more suited for this than GirlWritesWhat. I can see her verbally eviscerate Feminists on CNN and CBC now in a manner that will make a lot of women wake up. It is just a dream.. but it’s a nice one. If we could get enough Redpill women to get their voices to carry over the feminazi ones in the lamestream, perhaps enough women will wake up to the reality and have their own redpill moment.

And it would mean i’d get to personally meet up with them when they come to visit Toronto.. wicked bonus!


PPS- i understand that there is a lot of rage by men, who have seen the light and adopted a take no prisoners approach, who refuse becoming a utility to the extreme. That being said, i do not view ‘women’ as the enemy, only feminists. (Like Danny, i love women, not teh wimminz) I want women to be complementary, to be the masculine to the womans needs providing she returns the feminine back to me that i require. I would not have an issue with working harder and longer hours, providing the woman appreciates it by doting upon me and honors the social contract as it used to be. My fight against being a pack mule is reserved for entitled and unworthy women who expect it as a matter of course and entitled to it solely because they have a vagina. That’s the distinction i draw.

No marriage until laws are fixed.

No kids/slaving away to provide unless woman is worthy and feminine (knows her role)

No manning up until women women up.

There’s more i can write on this, but i gotta get back to ‘work’. Hope this clears some of my positioning up.


What i’ve been buying and doing as of late..

September 2, 2012

Lets see, since June..

  1. Bought new computer in July after my old computer melted
  2. Bought a new HTC One X android phone and new cell plan with 6 gigs of data
  3. Got a 2 year upgrade on my vehicle registration
  4. Had time to read game, start watching MindOS
  5. Drink lots of beer (Molson 67 eh) and relax
  6. Paid off over $1,000 of my braces treatment
  7. Picked up Transformers: Fall of Cybertron (my current addiction)
  8. Picked up Forza 4 and NFS:Shift 2 (with Xbox wheel and 5.1 surround, and the Top Gear track with Jeremy Clarkson voiceover.. EPIC)
  9. Picked up Crysis 2 (FPS fix)
  10. Bought Puss in Boots 3D and Cars 2 3D (on my 55″ LED LG 3D tv)
  11. Bought WD TV Live media streamer for viewing my.. uhh… ‘rentals’ from someplace called The Pirate Bay hehe
  12. Got some new jeans and tank tops
  13. Got started on ProActiv again to clear up my complexion to make me even more sexy
  14. Putting tiny amounts of fuel in my completely paid off 2012 Ford Focus Titanium
  15. Opened up a Costco Premium membership
  16. Purchased more Whey protein and vitamin supplements for my weight training
  17. Not being rushed in my workouts to accommodate someones plans
  18. Extra weight plates and dumbbells
  19. Went out to see Prometheus and Batman Dark Knight Rises in theaters
  20. Hanging out with only people i care to hang with due to their quality
  21. Hit a few parties, socialize for the sake of social interactions, not outcomes
  22. Go on late night bike rides throughout the city with no curfew

What i *haven’t* been buying or doing as of late:

  1. Stupid outings for ‘Sushi‘, the entitled princess meal
  2. Wondering where i’m going to find money to cover the credit card bills
  3. Buying panties/lingerie that would be worn in anger is if it were a chore to wear
  4. Trying to find room to store things in my own home
  5. Being told to renovate or fix things around the place that were fine
  6. Paying off anyone else’s student debt
  7. Being asked to take the dog out in the middle of the night
  8. Watching the gas bill rise for stupid inefficiently planned trips being done in the ‘family’ SUV
  9. Wondering why we need to buy a 5th bedspread from IKEA (because it’s purple!)
  10. Being asked to repaint perfectly fine walls
  11. Being asked if something looked good on/made them look fat
  12. Arguing about the need to buy new cookware with money that doesn’t exist (because the Lagostino set is in shiny red!)
  13. Wondering why we have no closet space when my stuff only takes 1/5th of the space
  14. Staring at an obscene pile of shoes
  15. Having to listen to complete drivel or pretend to care about inane bullshit
  16. Being required to entertain out of obligation
  17. Stressing out over ‘is this a shit test’?
  18. Chewing off my finger nails or losing any more hair
  19. Worrying about what anyone’s given opinion of me is at any point in time
  20. Being anyone’s doormat or emotional tampon
  21. Putting anyone’s needs before my own

My brother would have turned 40 seven days ago. I think he would be happy with where i’ve come since he departed.

I turn 36 in two days. I am very happy with myself in who i am and where i’m going.

Could it have all turned out so very different. Yes. My marriage could have remained intact if hypergamy hadn’t reared it’s ugly head and had feminism, my mother and father, and all members of authority not so deeply ingrained beta thinking and attitude into me. (My next post will be a multipart series detailing many aspects of that)

But that time is done and past and mark my words.. never to be repeated. Mojo makes the case that my heart and mind have known ever since i was forced to leave my own home on my hands and knees by the women i pledged my life to, one who could not uphold her end of the contract.

For all the reasons i just enumerated above.



I think Captain No-Marriage would be proud. I have not had to check in with, run any numbers by, ask for permission for or beg to do anything i have wanted to do.

Now if you excuse me, i have to get back to helping Optimus Prime save The Ark!