Posts Tagged ‘courtship’


The Wisdom of Mike C.

June 26, 2012

Sometimes the conversations there can bring about a powerful understanding into the discrepancy between the though processes of the sexes.

This one is brought to you by Mike C. at comment 398

Here’s the setup up. The concept of ‘spinning plates’ was brought up by myself and a few others in this thread. Susan and Co. take umbrage at the idea of men working multiple women at the same time until a firm offer of exclusivity comes up by the female. Jimmy gets the ball rolling by asking Susan:

“can you honestly argue that it doesn’t place him in a more advantageous situation than if he were sexually pursuing either girl exclusively from the get go?”

Susan replies:

Of course it does, and he can generally pull it off only by lying by omission. Since you claim that many women don’t mind, why not be up front about his activities and what he is looking for? “Just so you know, you’re not the only person I’m doing this with.” Heck, according to your theory, this should be a DHV.

They have a few back and forth before Jimmy ends on:

You seem to be advocating exclusivity before a committed relationship is even established.

followed with

Just curious, is it a lie by omission if a girl doesn’t announce her count to a potential bf before he commits to her? After all, that’s information that will help him make an informed decision… Using your standard

It’s at this point where Mike C. jumps in and really lays it all out on the table for all to see with eyes wide open. His ability articulate this succinctly is breathtaking. Enjoy the read, it’s after the jump.

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How to keep a man happy

June 16, 2012

Athol is a genius.

To quote [emphasis mine] :

“Husbands [edit: or partners in general] are not that hard to manage. All you have to do is feed them, make sure you basically contribute to the creation of the home and family life, and act like you really enjoy doing things involving their penis. Seriously, that’s about it. It’s really kind of rare that guys walk away from that sort of deal for a 22-year-old that, (1) can’t put a meal on the table without a cell phone, (2) does not understand the difference between a credit card and a debit card because they both say VISA, and (3) apparently only knows one sexual position called “starfish”.

I was having this conversation with a friend on the roof of my building yesterday, discussing about the sort of barter like system the sexes work on to get their interests/needs met. Women want the platonic/emotional/relationship needs met. Men want their intimacy/sexual/spiritual needs met. Been that way since the dawn of time. Most days men want to hang out with men, deal with men, share men’s interests because they’re men, and vice versa for women (gossip, clothes shopping, bitching about men, etc.)  The only reason men and women come together are for pair bonding/sex/procreation. Outside of that, there isn’t much men and women really do to want to be in each others company unless each is willing to reciprocate in giving what needs have to be met or fulfilled by the other.

Leap of Beta made a great comment somewhere out there in the internet; but for the love of me, i just can’t find it. Something to do with today’s women simply being so not worth hanging out with as their interests border on the banal from completely irrelevant to insanely asinine. Think of Snookie. If he reads this i hope he can dig it up and repost it. When i read his post i instantly thought of the movie Se7en, where they’re reading the journal of the serial killer as he talks about his experience on a subway where he had to deal with a man on a subway who engaged him in incessant small talk.

On the subway today, a man came up to me to start a conversation. He made small talk, a lonely man talking about the weather and other things. I tried to be pleasant and accommodating, but my head began to hurt from his banality. I almost didn’t notice it had happened, but I suddenly threw up all over him. He was not pleased, and I couldn’t stop laughing.” – Se7en

Now i could be wrong… but this is how i feel when i think of talking to many of the club going women nowadays, much less most women because i know there is an expectation to have to cowtow to them if i want access to their lady bits.

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