Ever see the girl who loves cooking breakfast for a douchebag?
Ever know a girl who really likes getting her boyfriend a beer?
Ever witnessed a girl make a sammich for her lover?
Ever heard about a woman who picks up after, cleans and does the laundry of her special guy?
Ever read dating and advice columns about women asking what more they can do to get their significant other to un-equivocally commit to them?
Ever had to listen to some vapid chick cry about how hard she tries to please her man sexually, giving him every request he wants without getting her needs fulfilled, faking her orgasms or just getting the wham bam jackhammer thank you m’aam treatment.. and then asking why he’s still so distant?
Ever hear a woman weep after being berated, humiliated, shoved, abused by her man.. and defend her man saying he’s really not like that, he’s a good person, just give him time?
Ever hear all of this from a woman who simply felt an expectation that doing these things were part of building a relationship towards the goal of commitment?
Ever hear a woman call a man a commitment-phoebe?
Ever hear all of these women pour forth a river of tears , shrieking in agony and cursing to the heavens about how they did everything to keep the relationship going, how awful these horrible men were for not pouring in the same amount of effort, how he’s a creep, a loser, immature, peter pan, man boy child, not ready for a serious relationship and how he wouldn’t man up to take the relationship to the “next level“?
The vitriol that bursts forth from their lips when cold, harsh reality sinks in as her mind awakens to the fact that all her efforts were for naught, all the while receiving cold comfort and validation from a security blanket of female friends, a gaggle of hens who curse the stupid awful mean man who simply refused to appreciate her epic awesomeness to perform his duty to the imperative and commit to her.
We see it all the time but never call it out for what it is because we live in a world that gives primacy and validation for the female preferred method of both promiscuity and attaining commitment.
It’s the rules of GirlWorld™.
THE NICE PARADOX. TO BE NICE IS TO CEDE POWER.