
Odds, Ends, Thoughts, Musings, Reflections and Other Stuff
July 27, 2013Questions Part 2 will take a back seat for a day or two or more, depending on how i feel. It’s ready to go, but i feel i need to get some things off my chest first before i release it.
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1. Commenter Ariel left a comment here on my last post, a comment i can’t really place as to whether she was angry about that specific post, or talking about another post and she accidentally cross posted the comment. The comment was all over the map and it felt out of place. In any case i simply wanted to understand the proper context of the comment and mention the following, unless she’s commenting about my whole blog in generel. Ariel wrote:
“What happened to you? You are happy. You have love. You … Have a women who you hold in high esteem and bask in her reciprocation of this heavenly emotion”
I still am wondrously happy with a woman i adore. There is an aura of love, adoration and caring. I am the masculine to her feminine. I do hold her in high esteem and cherish the reciprocation. She looks up to me and respects my wit, intelligence, deep logic and dedication to building a body she simply loves to ravish. All of it true.
This does not change the fact that i write a blog for men (and women) under the aspect of helping blue pill men and guiding them into the red, and help women understand there are consequences to actions and behaviors, and try to steer them to avoid those bad behaviors where possible and enhance the good ones wherever possible. If a strong, sexy, dominant, knows what he wants, takes no shit redpill man is what you want.. then you need to accept redpill thinking from men. I write about my experiences. I write about what i find appropriate and inappropriate. I don’t tell anyone what they should do in life, i tell them what *I* think. I do not put a gun to men’s heads and say “You have to do this or that!”, I promote my ideals in the free marketplace of idea’s where they will either be adopted by men, or they won’t. If enough men think that what i’m saying sounds good and act on it.. it’s not for you to say “You promote hate against sluts and your generalizations are all wrong and STFU and keep quiet because you poison people”. What you must do is introduce your own idea’s.. and if they are sound and reasonable, people will adopt your ideals over mine.
That’s how the free market works. Offer the men a better choice, and they will take it.
“You lost me.”
I’m sorry that’s the way you feel. I’d rather you stayed to discuss and debate seeing as how i enjoy having women bring their point of view to my table, but it’s ultimately your choice. I’m not going to stop promoting the idea that a world with fewer sluts is good thing for civilization. I’m not going to stop trying to dissuade an impressionable young women from jumping on the carousel because i believe many men, myself included, prize a women who treated her sexuality like a gift to be shared respectfully with only men who proved themselves to be of utmost value.. not something to be frittered away to just those who would use her as a warm masturbatory tool. I’m not going to stop telling severely overweight people to expect high physical SMV beauty in their partner that they’re unable to work for in themselves. I’m not going to stop cluing women into the reality of the wall and to prioritize marriage and children over partying and careers. I’m not going to stop being the boogyman who warns of future spinsterhood to women who ape masculine traits they adore that men do not adore in women. I’m not going to indulge women in the unrealistic idea of having it all.
I can never have it all, but i did the hard work and looked inward to make the most of the situation and the time i have left. Just because i’m riding a high now does not mean i’ll shutter up the blog, silence my voice and stop telling guys in less fortunate situations what i think they should aspire for instead of settling for what the femcentric society tells them they should accept. I’m not going to abandon them just because i left the ghetto for the gated community…
I haven’t forgotten where i came from.
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2. I received an email from a girl who called herself Girl_In_Glasses1989. She asked me for some advice and was feeling really down. I tried to offer it to her but her email bounced.
Technical details of permanent failure:
The email account that you tried to reach does not exist.
If you’re reading this, please try and get back to me. I just wanted to tell you that you should certainly not feel horrible for being a woman, there isn’t anything inherently wrong with being a woman. You’re not a waste of space, you’re reading too much into the anger of men who are only very recently angry and have not had enough time to deal with their betrayal/anger/hurt long enough to process it. I was there once, i’m not there anymore. Keep that in mind and keep your chin up. And don’t do anything silly or stupid, for the love of jebus :P Which brings me to point 3
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3. Redemption – I have done a lot of soul searching regarding a woman’s ability to fall into the slut trap. There are countless factors that go into shaping a young woman’s life, self esteem, self worth and values along the way. Socio economic status, parentage, daddy issues or lack of daddy, impressionable youth, peer pressure, feminist indoctrination into cum guzzling slut culture, etc.. and some women will follow this path. The Herd mentality, her own natural hypergamy, solipsism, etc.. all conspire. I write all my vitriol not to bludgeon woman over the head for things they might have already done, i write to ‘scare’ women whom are on the cusp of becoming a slut to reconsider precisely because they may NOT know how many men feel as i do. Unfortunately, there are many who rack up a high number only to later find out that the majority of men do not respect sluts. This puts them in an awkward position of either defending their choices or throwing themselves at the mercy of the court in pleading ignorance.
My next post will be on the latter. I’m going to write about the way forward if you did rack up a high number and you are worried about it affecting your future relationship or losing a guy over it. There is hope. But just like an alcoholic.. you must first admit you have a problem and feel shameful for doing it. If you are unrepentant for being a slut, or proud that you shot fish in a barrel.. my post will not be for you.
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4. Had 2 strange conversations at work recently with co-workers. One was about genital mutilation spurned on by my replying to some dumb cunt on Facebook who left a comment on AVfM’s page about genital integrity about how uncut penis’s are gross and yucky and that all men should be circumcised because ‘It looks better’.The other one was about biological science and reality vs. feminist thinking and visceral reaction towards my way of handling a situation precipitated by irrational and hormonal driven hysterics. I will write a post on these in the near future but let me just say this. It really never ceases to amaze me just how infected our society is where people do not even question or bat an eyelash at thinking how horrible an action is when directed on a helpless female child, but is just fucking peachy and a-ok when done to a male child, despite evidence that i will deprive them of sexual pleasure and quite possibly kill them over cosmetic reasons. And let’s not forget, you’re actually inflicting pain and harm on a child who has no agency, choice or ability to defend itself in the matter. Might as well say “Yea i kick my daughter like a football, it’s ok, she won’t remember any of this when she’s older’.
Nor can i stomach the cowing and total prostration of men to ignore basic human science and psychology and play white knight for having the temerity to even postulate that a woman might be over reacting to imaginary issues created in her own mind irrespective of actual facts on the ground because perhaps her hormones are off the chart because she’s on her peak fertile day.
Yeah.. i’m really starting to despise the ignorance of Bluepill denizens.
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5. Private Man has set his comments to be moderated now. I respect his decision since he has chosen to intertwine his blogging with his business venture and personal life. I will be the first to agree, as Ariel could probably attest to, the Sphere is rife with angry, bitter and resentful comments that are loaded with hurt/rage/anger/frustration/bias and tone that can scare many people It’s the price of doing business in the sphere.. where most men come here first looking for answers as to why their life imploded. Seeing everything through redpill eyes, discovering what hypergamy means for the first time, and seeing all their constructed lives of pretty lies shatter in front of them, you bet there will be a lot of harsh sentiments spoken.
Some very harsh stuff, much worse than anything i’ve ever written even at the pinnacle of my rage. To quote the great Winston Zeddemore
” I’ve seen shit that’ll turn you white.”
It’s why it’s called the MAN-osphere. There’s a harsh put down that’s used quite often when the women invade our safe space:
It’s time to sit down. The men are talking.
I owe Private Man (and Danny504 and Reddit) the most in terms of having had traffic flow my way. It was Private Man’s executive summary of my InCel post that pretty much put me on the map here and gave me my 15 minutes of fame. He above all others understood that men need a place where they can unload their voices, unhindered and without fear of hurting delicate sensibilities so that the unvarnished truth might be allowed to flourish. And he understood that as uncomfortable as it was, this was a post that needed to be read, by men and by women. Why? In his own words:
“I know a lot of women read my blog and many will squirm and wince as they read M3′s story. You should be squirming and wincing. This should be your call to fight the lies and confront other women for their duplicity and selfish malice. And for you mothers and fathers with sons… teach them the fucking truth.“
This truth would never have been arrived at in any social setting, gathering or private function in the real world where women dominate the narrative, beta’s still supplicate, nod yes and acquiesce to women for fear of offending and losing access to pussy while sitting in the doghouse, and society still says that the female preferred form of promiscuity is the correct and only way.
My story would never have survived the opening paragraph in the real world. But here on our little chunk of the internet, it’s been read by countless thousands, helped open many eyes for the first time and quite literally helped a man take the gun out of his mouth and change his outlook on life.
So it goes without saying that even tho PM is moderating his comments now for the best opportunity to make his business succeed, i know he knows how necessary it remains that all men have a place where they can start their journey… from the darkest place in their own personal hell, and through time growth and eventual healing move on to bigger and better things to reclaim life once more.
And with that i wish Mr. Drew much success in his endeavors to help Redpill people shack up :P
It’s very late (early?)where I am right now, so I’ll not start a comment that is written by my awesome-but-sleep-deprived mind. However, I will state that I am GREATLY looking forward to seeing all of these topics in actual post form. Bravo! :)
On topic 3: You may want to reword the part about admitting one has a problem and feeling shame over it; Some (solipsistic?) people might read that and see it as feeling shame over the admittance and not having the problem.
On topic 4: That is definitely something that opens my eyes. I am a circumcised man, and never actually saw that study. It’s more food for thought about how I will raise my boys (when they come into the world). I already made a pledge to myself to raise Any future children in the effort to help them rise above all the societal bullshit, but I hadn’t realized how this would factor into it. Thank you.
On topic 5: Since you commented on PM, could you offer some insight into why the 3rdMillemiumMan has gone private? I have been following his blog, and was surprised when it started coming up as private.
BDubs
Again about teaching them the truth. Live honestly.
Start it at 1:00.
I love how Christopher Titus was told his truth could be funny and turned the most horrible things into a comedy act.
“Just because i’m riding a high now does not mean i’ll shutter up the blog, silence my voice and stop telling guys in less fortunate situations what i think they should aspire for instead of settling for what the femcentric society tells them they should accept. I’m not going to abandon them just because i left the ghetto for the gated community…”
Hells to the yeah! That is what i’d been hoping to see ever since you entered lovey-dovey-land (which i congratulate you on and could never begrudge you). Long may you continue to spit truth.
@m3
It’s a twisted world we live in. It is not the truth I found nor find disturbing it is the tone, full of anger, resentment and a tinge a of fear I regret.
I understand. You wrote for men. Not women. You portray your truth as man not the realities of living as a woman and that is fair enough
As for reformed sluts:
Hope I’m not stealing your thunder. Here are my thoughts.
All is not lost. She might be able to find a man willing to wife her up.
1. Admit your problem. Repent. Turn away from it. Resolve never to return to it.
2. Find someone you trust, and lay out everything you did, who you did it with. Make amends where necessary. Own it, take responsibility for it, without excuse or rationalization. (this is the hardest part). You didn’t make “mistakes”. You made choices and decisions.
3. Get a head to toe physical, get checked out inside and out. If you have curable STDs, get them treated. If you have incurable STDs, best you know that now, so you can disclose them as necessary. Get on a treatment plan. You might have fertility issues. Who ever marries you (if anyone) needs to know all this.
4. Get your other issues taken care of whatever they are: daddy issues, addictions, money problems, whatever.
5. Get rid of whatever other things propel you to the slut lifestyle: social media; slut friends, FWBs, old BFs in and out of your life.
6. No boyfriends, no dating, no sex for a year. You need to detox.
7. Don’t go the “born again virgin” route. It’s a fraud.
8. Accept your limited options with grace and humility. The men willing to date and marry you will probably not be as attractive as the men you used to have sex with. You might have to accept that no man is willing to date or marry you.
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Yeah, I think if you take a big enough beating on the way to red pill, you never forget how you got there.
Btw man, I wrote a ‘confession’ post a few posts ago modeled after your confession speech which was kind of a big impact to me man.
http://eruditeknight.wordpress.com/2013/07/13/the-confession-of-ek-how-i-was-forced-to-take-the-pill/
M3, you make a great point about notch count lying and true intimacy per prior post, but womenz aint rational in a civilized, transparent, mutually respectful way. Only civilized men are with each other. Makes for great fireworks in text though, a red-pill on blue-pill fault line, but not a great method of socializing in real life. Socializing is a blood sport because evolution is a blood sport. The audacious amateur blogger give a very cogent and surprisingly transparent female perspective. Women will NOT process the cultural merit of what you say because the feminine does not operate on cultural merit: it is yang. She also gets to the crux of the matter before she retreats to the feminine imperative. “It’s a twisted world we live in.” Love men, lust women. As soon as a man accepts the definition of love from Abrahamic religion or the feminine imperative, he’s emotionally in shackles. Love is Platonic or not at all. Gives me an idea for a post. So much LOVE indoctrination out there. The YIN is dark, negative, and feminine for a reason, fellas.
This is in response to Deti in particular:
Your advice simply won’t work. Why? There is no one to take it.
Women don’t view themselves as sluts when they are having multiple sex partners. YOU think they are being sluts. Society might term them sluts, but they don’t think they are. (Few women will honestly admit they were/are acting slutty.) Most women think that having sex means they are on the verge of having a meaningful relationship with the guy. They think he’s going to call them afterwards.
Now when they lie about actual numbers when asked by their latest bf they must on some level realize that they were too promiscuous, or they would be honest, but they don’t really think they were slutty.
Women don’t realize there is a double standard when it comes to sexual activity. I’ve said this over and over.
Carolina:
I keep hearing this:
“ Most women think that having sex means they are on the verge of having a meaningful relationship with the guy. They think he’s going to call them afterwards.”
Really? Why? Based on what facts or circumstances? I can see this if it’s date 3 or 4 or 5, but an ONS? Screwing on the second date?
And how many times does a woman need to do this before she figures out that trading sex for the hope of “commitment” isn’t working out so well? Five times? 15 times? Why so many? At what point can we expect a girl to pick up on the fact that guy number 35 isn’t going to call her afterwards; just like guy number 2 didn’t?