My stance on Fat ShamingJune 10, 2013
A lot has been said about the fat girl who posed with the slim built guy in protest of Abercrobie&Fitch.
I’m going to keep this short.
No one should be made to feel horrible or ashamed for how they look. No one. I don’t shame anyone for being fat in and of itself.
I have a problem with hypocrites tho, those who pretend to take a stand of sorts, which is standing for inequality and doing the easy thing.. not the hard thing.
No one can claim to deign what is and isn’t attractive to another human being. This is the lesson of the manosphere. Attraction just is. You being angry because a guy doesn’t find you sexually appealing because you are fat is no different than you not being attracted to the guy who lives in his moms basement at the age of 35 while playing WoW on Xbox and Dungeons and Dragons on the weekend.
I am saying this because i have never gone out of my way to intentionally harm someone else’s esteem, especially those who know their esteem is already low. It’s like kicking lame horse.
There was a time when i was kicked. For both being fat, and for being the beta unattractive loser unworthy of a relationship.
So i get it.
I also keep stressing i know many people in real life, who are ‘big’.. who are the nicest people you would meet. Perhaps humility and humble come from adversity, and never having had the silver spoon in the mouth. Just a theory.
She decided to do a photoshoot with a svelte, handsome and quite possibly gay (not that there’s anything wrong with that) model.. who was most likely paid for his services. While it may be possible he actually found her attractive, the chances are slim (pardon the pun) and if it were the case, we could attribute it to a fetish, not a suppression human nature or change in conscious thinking. Her choice to do the shoot with Mr. Hunky works against her whole body shaming argument, or that fat actually is beautiful. If that were the case, she should have done the shoot with an equally fat man to recognize body shaming equally is wrong. Instead, she made it only about body shaming women and accepting fat only if you are a fat woman…
If the roles were reversed and she had a Victoria Secret model in sexual poses with the equivalent of Fat Bastard, how many of her readers would you think would be throwing up in disgust, saying shit like ‘well.. there’s a guy with money’, or completely lampooning the shoot.
See, this was never about body shaming. This was about accepting fat women as sexually desirable. This was about creating and fashioning a reality in which fat women are supposed to be encouraged that they are to be desired by the tall dark and handsomes of the world.. and not just about not shaming fat people.
But of all my problems.. the one i find the most disturbing is crystallized by one of her own readers comments:
It’s that she has created a fucking delusion in other women.. a delusion that those who are unwilling to put in the time and effort to maintain a healthy weight or lifestyle, those who do not want to be shamed or ridiculed for their lack of effort or work ethic, those who want to be accepted solely on the basis of who they are and not what they look like… CAN TURN AROUND and OBJECTIFY, AND FEEL ENTITLED TO ‘nailing’ guys ONE BILLION SMV points out of their league.
Polly_E is the end result of this continual mass delusion. And it will only get worse as the masses are propagandized to and indoctrinated into the belief that the ‘new average’ size for women is in fact the NEW normal.. without any thought to stop and think ‘well wait a second.. we only shifted the goal posts’
Being fat IS NOT normal. In nature it is ABNORMAL. Does this make you a horrible person? No. Does this make you undeserving of respect, decency and human dignity? No. Does it make you a hot goddess deserving of nailing fit, hot guys who work hard to achieve their body type and show impulse control with what goes into their mouths?
No. You are not entitled to dick. You are not entitled to a relationship. Stop being a NiceGirl(tm)
I am NOT making fun of these people because they are fat. I am making fun of the delusion that they should expect so much when they invest so little, especially in themselves. No one would think twice about telling some dude who dressed, acted and behaved like an omega that he is sooooo hawt hawt hawt, so incredibly irresistible, a total James Dean or James Bond, and how he is just so courageous to be posing with a Victoria Secret model he payed to have with her in the shoot.. and how absolutely fucking hawt they look together.. her slender legs wrapped around his 300lb girth and I ❤ Star Trek t-shirt while wearing his bifocals.
Follow the comments on militant bakers blog post and you will see precisely this kind of herd mentality where they all pat each other on the back and laud her for her ‘courage’. You know what would have been really courageous? Modeling with an equally fat man next to her. Then her movement would have some merit. Otherwise, i view it as simply a stunt of the feminine imperative to assuage the feelings of large women without the equal caring to eliminating body shaming against men.
And i will probably be called some loser with a tiny dick because i’ve been against this protest from day one.
Thin Privilege – where body shaming is ok, if you are a fat woman making fun of a thin woman and calling her a bag of bones or a twig or a stick or a skeleton.. because she happens to have the golden ratio.
*On a side note.. let me also add, i wonder how ‘happy’ she really is, knowing she can only get some handsome guy to pose with her because he was paid to be there. (or at the very least, done as a favor to the photographer) must be a subtle wake up call for women to stop being callous retards by saying “Well if a guy wants sex, why doesn’t he just go out and pay for it?”.. because i will get very adept at saying shit like ‘Well if fat girls want relationships.. why don’t they just rent?’ Sure the guy doesn’t actually care about you and disappears as soon as the money dries up but hey..