So on OKCupid there’s a section in the profile called..
I SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT:
50 shades of gray and why it’s so popular? oh wait.. i know why ;)
I’m pretty sure from reading through your questions that I’m not really your type. [yes, a few extra pounds is not my type] But your “thinking about section”… well, I just thought I’d throw an answer out to you re: Fifty Shades of Grey. It’s terribly written. It’s embarrassing to admit that you’ve read them. But every woman I know has. And been so turned on. But… and this is the thing that makes it successful. There is this distracting top layer that everyone can talk safely about which is the hot sex scenes, the forbidden joys of BDSM. It’s scandalous and titillating to discuss bondage and nipple clamps and dominance and aggressive passionate sex. But…. hidden beneath the hot BDSM sex is the real female fantasy. And no self-respecting modern day woman wants to admit it. That’s why we all get a rush pretending, even to ourselves, that it’s really about the sex. It’s not. It’s about being taken care of. Mr. Grey is a domineering, overprotective, rich, capable, confident, strong, self-made man who actually does all of that because he wants to protect and cherish and take care of, and yes, control… his precious little thing. And it’s that desire, the WANTING to be someone’s precious little thing, that women are so getting off on. But, none of us have to actually admit it. It would make us pathetic, and weak, and girly girl to admit to having THOSE fantasies. Way easier to admit to fantasies about bondage and pain.
I have my own take on this view of her’s but i’d like to get some of your reactions before i jump in. Please discuss.